Daisy Swan - Los Angeles Career Coach, Career Counselor and career strategy

You are viewing an archived issue of the newsletter.
Click here to have future issues delivered to your inbox

Suddenly Summer.

Have you learned anything new thus far, this year?

As you head into the second half of the year, it may be time to assess where you've been and where you're going…no? What do you want to say you accomplished this year, when the ball drops on December 31? I know that summer is a great time to kick back and enjoy the longer days, but it's also a great time to launch a new vision, pick up a new skill, or find a new position.

In the spirit of stretching ourselves a bit, I'm debuting a new class this month called "Calm Communication: Skillful Strategies for Stressful Social Situations", at InsightLA. This is a departure for me; it's not a straight career or life transition class that I'm offering, but rather one that touches all areas of life: How we communicate, and how we feel when we do it.

How we communicate

We live in a noisy world; one that is often overwhelming for even the toughest of us. For many introverts, the noise of life and the incessant social situations in which we find ourselves can be mind-numbing and exhausting.

I've been studying the 'quieter' folks of the world for years. I grew up in a family of introverts, married a couple, and am raising an introverted son. I've also worked with hundreds of introverted clients who have struggled to stretch into a larger world, to connect with others who could help them attain their next opportunity. So when a former client contacted me to see if I'd be interested in offering a class for people like her – someone who has achieved a lot, but who finds the social demands of her work daunting – I happily said "yes".

All of us, quiet or rambunctious, wrestle with our fears of saying or doing the wrong thing. Extraverts often feel the need to talk things through with others, before they settle on what they really think, or know what they want to say. They may feel self-doubt, but they'll push through that in order to connect verbally. They love to process verbally. Speaking before knowing is typical for the extravert.

Introverts, however, may have a tendency to undermine themselves with negative internal 'self talk' that creates self-consciousness and anxiety. And even if they aren't shy – as in, uncomfortable talking with others – people may associate an introvert's quiet demeanor as aloof or withdrawn, when they really DO want to be connecting and socially available.

So starting on June 20, at 7:00 PM, I'll be leading "Calm Communication", a six-week program that addresses the strengths and gifts of introverts. Again, we're holding this program at InsightLA, the lovely mindfulness meditation center in Santa Monica. This six-week class will provide a compassionate container in which to learn techniques to recognize, and quell, the discomfort of self-judgment that often arises in social and work situations requiring you to show up with a bigger presence and voice. I've helped many clients feel more grounded and able to speak up, and calm down, so that they feel more verbally effective while being themselves.


As a practitioner and teacher of mindfulness meditation, I know that this practice serves us to tune in and hear ourselves; it's the perfect antidote to the often annoying inner critic who chatters away when we'd rather be giving voice to something valuable. This non-judgmental and safe container of a class will provide the opportunity for each person to work at their own pace, and to try out new behaviors as appropriate for them.

Wouldn't it be a relief to approach a new social situation with confidence, and the knowledge that the unshakeable you can be seen contributing the gifts that you know you have to offer? For more information and to register, please visit: www.insightla.org/1246/calm-communication-with-daisy-swan

That's what I'm up to...what are you up to?

I'm always happy to hear from you with stories of where you are, and what's changed in your life. I don't forget anyone – after all of these years of working with clients – I hold everyone and their stories. Some of the cool things clients are up to, now: New babies, promotions, happily laid off and creating new business opportunities, weddings, and some are pursuing new degrees. And congrats to those starting in new jobs after holding on to the wrong one for soooo long.

So many inspiring changes are always taking place; just a reminder that life does have it's own timing, but we can help ourselves have more of what we want when we take the time, and make the investment in ourselves to find what really fits for us – instead of trying so hard to fit in where we don't.

Summer has often been the time that I've made personal and professional shifts, and this is one of those summers. I've decided to do a bit of rebranding so you'll see in the next several months, a change in my web site and offerings. I've also decided to simplify a bit; I will be flying solo from now on, which means a new name for my business is in the works. I'm doing what so many of you have done…trying to figure out how to name what I do in a snappy way – a learner of life, relationships, communication, marketing, businesses and occupations of all types – and helping others find the way to be their absolute best, wherever they are. "Career Coach" and "Life Coach" just doesn't seem to capture all of that.

Have a suggestion? I'd love to hear it...

As always, here are some suggested books that I’ve been enjoying:

Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead”, by Sheryl Sandberg

The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now”, by Meg Jay

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life”, by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life”, by Ph.D. Susan Campbell

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking”, by Susan Cain


And while you're reading, why not check out Find Bliss Magazine, to which I'm now a contributor. My most recent article, in the June 2013 issue, talks more about the "which came first, the chicken or the egg" idea of sparking yourself into action, to then spark positive change. Enjoy!

You can also find a wealth of resources on my web site, from other suggested books, links to other helpful sites, a Q&A with me, newsletter archives, and more. You can even sign up to receive a FREE sample chapter from my e-book, “Making Work Work: Secrets from a Career Coach's Office”; the signup box is located right on our home page. And please feel free to tell your friends and colleagues about the FREE sample chapter, or any of our other services and offerings.

And don't forget that with my one-on-one coaching services, I'm also here for your individual coaching needs. Please feel free to reach out to us at any time with questions about any of my coaching services – or if you simply want to provide some feedback or suggestions: anna@daisyswan.com or 1-877-872-3929.

Have a very happy - and productive - summer!

Daisy Swan

Keep up with Daisy

Daisy Swan

Daisy S. Swan, MA, CPCC
The Los Angeles Career Counselor and Coach
4132A Del Rey Avenue
Marina Del Rey, CA 90292

© 2013 Daisy Swan