What We Want

Guest Contributor for My L.A. Lifestyle Recent studies show that more than half of all employees are looking forward to leaving their jobs once the economy gets better. But, what would they be leaving for? What would you be leaving for? Overall, what most people want is a way to make meaningful progress in their work. They want to feel like their work matters. Given that we want these changes, and that the better employment picture we’d hoped for may still be limping along for a while longer, what can we do to keep our own happiness, satisfaction and spirit up, in the face of this often WAY frustrating scenario? As a career coach, I see how anxiety is ratcheting up, and how learning various techniques and practices that help with all of this anxiety can truly positively affect my clients. Mindfulness, and the stress-managing principles of this approach,… Read More

Enter 2013! Time to reboot.

Guest Contributor for My L.A. Lifestyle As 2013 rounds into view, I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel – in fact, there’s lots of data that says we all are. We’ve lived through several remarkable years that have stretched everyone in a myriad of ways. Finally, it looks like we may be emerging from the worst of the retracted job market. But this is still not the job market that it once was. Many people have had to change how they work, learn and retool, and many people have endured jobs that they’d rather have left, after co-workers were let go and work demands increased. Even if your work hasn’t changed, the pace of life has increased as emails, technologies, and choices flood our lives. With increased responsibilities, loss, and overwhelm – and ultimately, stress – we tend to emotionally retract into a defensive posture. We can… Read More

Advice For Picking A Gambling Career

Your dream job must be able to fulfill both of your spiritual and financial requirements. In others words, you must wake up eager to go to work each morning and not feel like you are doing it just because it gets the checks paid. Also, it must be rewarding enough moneywise so it enables you to enjoy the financial freedom you are looking for. A career path that might do just that is one in the field of gambling. Casinos and gambling or gaming halls are growing in number each year and if you already have passion for casinos, here are a few ideas to help you get started. Decide What Interests You Most Some people like to shuffle cards or throw the dice; others are more interested in the security wing of a casino. Whatever your cup of tea might be, think real hard and start doing… Read More

The Importance Of Staying Focused

It’s easy to get lost. All it takes is a few wrong steps and a complete lack of concentration and you will face situations you haven’t actually planned; you will also most likely have a hard time getting back on the right track and reaching your original goals. So it is essential to remain focused at all times no matter how many distractions might throw at you. Tips To Staying Focused Write down your absolute goal on top of a white piece of paper. Use a colored marker and big letters. Then add the smaller goals and milestones that will help you reach the big goals from the top. For each small goal, take your time and come up with the right strategies and ideas to get you there fast and easy. Find ways of compressing time-consuming tasks into smart solutions to the same problems. Use out of the… Read More

Overcoming Roadblocks In Life

Few people have it all figured out in life – from an early stage – and they keep on following their plan to achieve goal after goal. Bumps in the road are usually unpredictable and unavoidable – and these are the times plans get changed and redirected and the feeling of being overwhelmed by hardships turns into a roadblock. This is yet a normal stage of normal life than can be overcome – and we are here to lend you a hand. Some of the most common forms of therapy you could try at home are relaxation and meditation techniques. How To Relax At Home Run a hot bath, lit some candles and play some cooling music. Read a book that you find enjoyable or take on a new hobby such as knitting, restoring old books or broken furniture, knitting, or making jewelry out of colored beads. If you… Read More

What Matters – From Side Dish to Main Course

Guest Contributor for My L.A. Lifestyle At a barbecue the other night, a new acquaintance was telling me that she had the hardest time staying motivated to do her job. She’s a single mom raising two teenagers, so she needs her steady income. But to feed her spirit, she has a robust side-business teaching children to play instruments. Essentially, she’s working two jobs. The job that has her feeling like she’s really engaged, where she really loses herself in the activity of her work? Teaching music. Is it exhausting to do this and her regular job? Yes. But in an energized, fulfilling way that comes with knowing she’s made a difference. “It’s instant gratification,” she tells me. “I can see how these children develop and learn in one lesson, not to mention what they’ve learned by the time they perform at the recital,” she says, laughing. Her energy is up,… Read More

Dreaming In Color

Guest Contributor for My L.A. Lifestyle I love to bake. Pies, in particular. I often do this while listening to NPR on KCRW. So when I had learned that Evan Kleiman of the noteworthy KCRW show, “Good Food”, was teaching a class on pies at The Gourmandise School in Santa Monica, I signed up immediately. I’ve made a lot of pies, but I’m self-taught. To learn from Evan — well, you can imagine (or maybe have experienced) the thrill of just standing next to someone who’s an idol (say, Kobe or Derek Jeter, Hillary Clinton or Annie Lebowitz) — it’s a kick and well, a moment. Evan owned and ran her restaurant, Angeli Caffe, for about 27 years and made the hard decision to close it last winter. I’ve listened to scores of interviews that Evan’s done on her KCRW show and have always appreciated her straightforward conversational style, the inside scoop on the… Read More

Livelihood Is True Fun

Finding one's true vocation, and, forming a healthy (self-directed) livelihood is really everybody's baseline responsibility in life. Most people think (or, they are told, and they believe it) that getting a 'good' job and an adequate if not comfortable income is the way to go. Others, who tend to be entrepreneurs, question whether either a job or an income are enjoyable, liberating enough ways to live.   Paradigm Shift Within   While it is true enough that our present age offers unparalleled opportunity for adopting one's own livelihood, there is another kind of healthy shift within oneself that is probably primary. Some like to use the phrase, 'out of the box', and we could apply this to the ideas that employment and income are good, if we're open-minded enough to do that. We could, by contrast, think of entrepreneurship, humanitarianism, or even personal leisure as the new baseline —… Read More

How To Pick Your Career – And Make The Right Choice

For starters, you are not the only one who was born not knowing what he wants to do when he grows up. So don’t be too harsh with yourself. Secondly, choosing a career is a serious decision that requires quite some reflection and consideration and it is perfectly fine to feel you need an extra pair of hands to find the right path. Below are a few tips on how to program your thinking so you can focus on your personal interests and desires, goals and talents, abilities and values and seal the right deal for your future.   Assess Your Skills This means you will need to look deeper into your own self and discover which are the things you are truly passionate about or interested in. there are plenty of books and specialized online resources that should help you get started on this self-assessment journey. Take your… Read More

Are You A Narcissist?

Have you ever thought of yourself as being a narcissist? Have you ever felt that way about others? What is it that led to that opinion? According to many, we have more and more of these people around us; but what exactly is narcissism? Generally speaking, it is defined as a set of behaviors that focus on self-centeredness taken to the extreme. There are healthier expressions of narcissism in their moderate forms; healthy narcissism that stimulates us to work out and be fit to look good can however be taken to the wrong side of things. Namely, many confront with the so-called pathological form of narcissism that gets in the way of one’s happiness and ability to function as a normal individual. Which category do you think you fall into? Here are a few tips that should help you figure things out.   You Are Obsessed With Your… Read More